The 5 love languages is written by Gary Chapman, is an author, speaker and marriage counselor. Gary Chapman has passion for people and helping them for lasting relationship. This book got acknowledgment around the world and this book is the first book of this series. The same series has the 5 love languages for men, the 5 love languages for children, the 5 love languages for teen, the 5 love languages for military. And this book is dedicated to couples.
This book is about lasting relationship after marriage, when “In-love” obsession phase gets over and reality hit. According to the author there are two phase in marriage, one is the starting phase which is “In-love obsession phase” and it is euphoric. Couples are emotionally obsessed with each other and according to the study this phase last average of two years and the second phase starts when reality hits. Couples are busy in their respective work, new responsibilities come, and the most of the attention is divided to paying bills, in-laws, jobs, children where routine can bring resentment and silently eat away all the love once they had.
Couples need real love over “in-love obsession” experience which is temporary. The kind of love which is emotional in nature but not obsessional. It is a love that unites reason and emotion. It involves an act of will and requires disciples, and it recognizes the need for personal growth. Love that grows out of reasons and choices not instinct. So this book helps all the couple out there who are struggling to keep love alive in their busy routine and helps them to keep alive the excitement, the love in their life.
According to the author, Gary Chapman, people speak different love languages. so to communicate love with your partner, one should know your partner’s primary love language and learn to speak his/her primary love language. This book also helps you to find your primary love language. The author concluded after many years of marriage counselling is that there are common five love languages:
- Words of Affirmation
- Quality Time
- Receiving Gifts
- Act of Services
- Physical Touch
Author has given detailed information about each of the love languages and also stated real examples he encountered during his counselling. It helps to find your and your partner’s primary love language. It helps to communicate your spouse’s love language frequently and you can request to your partner to communicate your primary love language. By speaking each other’s love language, their love tank will always be full and they feel loved and their emotional need is satisfied. This will create an environment of love, acceptance, and respect in the relationship. This book shows how your little efforts in right way can sustain the love in the relationship over long time, after all love is always a choice!
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