This book is given to me as a gift and I did not know what to expect out of this book frankly. But man! if you want to understand why and how women and men function differently, you need this book in your life. This book gives you broad perspective about the thinking and functioning process of men and women respectively and believe me you will connect to the every sentence the author is saying. This book will make your world easy by making you understand how different men and women are and how to communicate their needs in such a way that conflict doesn’t arise and how to build intimacy and chance to grow with people around you and especially the opposite sex.
About Author
John Gary, the author of this book is an American author, lecturer and relationship counsellor. His parents were both Christians and taught him yoga and they were followers of Indain Saint Yogananda. “The Autobiography of a Yogi” inspired him greatly in his life. This is the same book that inspired Steve Jobs. The men are from mars and women are from venus is about relationships, psychology and self help. This book was published in 1992 and sold more than 15 million copies and it was the “highest ranked work of non-fiction” of the 1990s according to a CNN report. This book got very popular among the couples and now it is viewed as a modern classic.
About Book
The writer has created a metaphor in this book and asked the reader to assume that men and women belong to different planets that is why men are from mars and women are from venus (the metaphor) and they’ve met on the planet earth and so man and woman are aliens to each other and they think, feel, perceive, react, respond, love, need and appreciate differently. To understand each other, it is important to learn and communicate in each other’s languages. This book will show how to:
- read moods and respond effectively
- Communicate difficult feelings
- Build lasting, loving male-female relationships
- Avoid the pain of argument
- Get what you need without seeming to nag or bully
- Understand your partner, colleagues or friends better than ever before.
Quoting some of my favorite lines from the book.
“When men and women are able to respect and accept their differences then love has a chance to blossom.”
“The man’s sense of self is defined through his ability to achieve results.”
“The woman’s sense of self is defined through her feelings and the quality of her relationships.”
” In relationships, men pull back and then get close, while women rise and fall in their ability to love themselves and others.”
” Men argue for the right to be free while women argue for the right to be upset. Men want space and women want understanding.”
” Just as communication is the most important element in a relationship, argument can be the most destructive element.”
” Most couples start out arguing about one thing and, within five minutes, are arguing about the way they are arguing.”
” Whether you share the feelings in your letter or you just write a letter to feel better, writing down your feelings is essential tool.”
” Ironically, the very act of avoiding our negative emotions gives them power to control our lives.”
” Books can inspire you to love yourself more, but by listening to, writing out, or verbally expressing your feelings you are actually doing it.”
” To grow in our ability to love ourselves we need to receive love as well.”
On Venus their motto is “love is never having to ask!”
” If a woman is not asking for support a man assumes that he is giving enough.”
” The biggest challenge for women is correctly to interpret and support a man when he isn’t talking.”
” When negative feelings are suppressed positive feelings become suppressed as well, and love dies.”
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